75 would you rather questions for couples

Warm-up rounds with no wrong answers, only strong opinions.

1. 1

   Would you rather have a dog that can talk or a cat that does the dishes?

2. 2

   Would you rather always know what I want for dinner or always know what I want to watch?

3. 3

   Would you rather have a slide instead of stairs at home or a secret room behind a bookshelf?

4. 4

   Would you rather have a laugh track after every joke you tell or a narrator describing everything you do?

5. 5

   Would you rather eat only breakfast food forever or never eat breakfast food again?

6. 6

   Would you rather have our first date or our first argument replayed for both our families?

   Follow-up: tell your partner’s version of that first date, then let them correct you.

7. 7

   Would you rather wear a costume on every date for a year or keep every date under $10?

8. 8

   Would you rather live in a treehouse or on a houseboat?

9. 9

   Would you rather swap phones with me for a day or swap wardrobes for a week?

10. 10

    Would you rather be the best cook among our friends or the funniest?

11. 11

    Would you rather always win at board games or always get to pick the movie?

12. 12

    Would you rather give up coffee or dessert for a year?

13. 13

    Would you rather have a couple nickname everyone uses or a secret handshake nobody knows about?

14. 14

    Would you rather know how every movie ends before it starts or never be able to watch one twice?

15. 15

    Would you rather have a pet sloth or a pet penguin?

The small stuff you actually live with: dinners, chores, bedtimes and the thermostat.

1. 16

   Would you rather do all the cooking or all the dishes, forever?

2. 17

   Would you rather have a huge kitchen or a huge bedroom?

3. 18

   Would you rather be a little too hot or a little too cold every night?

4. 19

   Would you rather get breakfast in bed every Sunday or dinner out every Friday?

5. 20

   Would you rather have separate bathrooms or a kitchen twice the size?

6. 21

   Would you rather rent in the city forever or own a house an hour from everything?

7. 22

   Would you rather never do laundry again or never wash another dish?

8. 23

   Would you rather have a date night every week or a weekend away every month?

9. 24

   Would you rather we always went to bed at the same time or always woke up at the same time?

10. 25

    Would you rather have a dog or a cat, if we could only ever have one?

11. 26

    Would you rather host every holiday or travel for every holiday?

12. 27

    Would you rather have a home that’s always spotless or always cozy and a little messy?

13. 28

    Would you rather have a home gym or a home library?

14. 29

    Would you rather control the TV remote or the music in the car, forever?

15. 30

    Would you rather split every bill down the middle or take turns paying?

    Easy to laugh about, and worth a real talk. Our money questions for couples go further.

    Open the 50 money questions

Pack a bag, at least in your head: your answers might plan the next trip.

1. 31

   Would you rather take a road trip with no plan or a vacation where every hour is booked?

2. 32

   Would you rather explore a new city or disappear to a remote beach?

3. 33

   Would you rather see the northern lights or a total solar eclipse?

4. 34

   Would you rather camp in the wilderness or stay in a fancy hotel in a boring town?

5. 35

   Would you rather backpack around the world for a year or live in one foreign city for a year?

6. 36

   Would you rather go skydiving together or scuba diving together?

7. 37

   Would you rather cross a continent by train or an ocean by ship?

8. 38

   Would you rather visit 30 countries quickly or get to know one country really well?

9. 39

   Would you rather get lost in a foreign city without a phone or be stuck in an airport for a whole day?

10. 40

    Would you rather go on safari or see penguins in Antarctica?

11. 41

    Would you rather spend our anniversary somewhere hot or somewhere snowy?

12. 42

    Would you rather have free flights for life or free hotels for life?

13. 43

    Would you rather hike a famous mountain trail or bike through wine country?

14. 44

    Would you rather spend a week somewhere with no internet or take a trip with my whole family?

    Answer carefully. Very carefully.

15. 45

    Would you rather try every street food in one city or eat at one world-famous restaurant?

Would you rather, with real answers: take your time, and always ask why.

1. 46

   Would you rather know exactly how our story ends or be surprised the whole way?

2. 47

   Would you rather have a partner who always tells you the hard truth or one who always makes you feel good?

3. 48

   Would you rather have more time or more money over the next five years?

4. 49

   Would you rather relive our best day so far or get a preview of the best one still to come?

5. 50

   Would you rather argue more and settle everything, or argue less and let some things go?

6. 51

   Would you rather live near your family or near mine?

   Not a test. Just a useful thing to know long before it ever has to be decided.

7. 52

   Would you rather be deeply understood or deeply admired?

8. 53

   Would you rather we always said exactly what we feel or kept some thoughts to ourselves?

9. 54

   Would you rather have one huge adventure together or a hundred small, perfect days?

10. 55

    Would you rather know what I’m thinking for a day or have me know what you’re thinking?

11. 56

    Would you rather have a career you love or a job that leaves plenty of time for us?

12. 57

    Would you rather be remembered for your kindness or your achievements?

13. 58

    Would you rather move across the world for my dream job or have me move for yours?

14. 59

    Would you rather grow old in one place or keep starting over somewhere new?

15. 60

    Would you rather have a love that’s calm and steady or one full of fireworks?

Lights down a little: cheeky, warm and still fine to read out loud.

1. 61

   Would you rather get a long kiss or a long hug when I walk in the door?

2. 62

   Would you rather get a love letter or a flirty text in the middle of your workday?

3. 63

   Would you rather slow dance in the kitchen or go dancing somewhere loud?

4. 64

   Would you rather see me dressed up for a night out or in your favorite T-shirt?

5. 65

   Would you rather spend a whole day in bed together or a whole day exploring a new city?

6. 66

   Would you rather give a massage or get one?

7. 67

   Would you rather kiss in the rain or under fireworks?

8. 68

   Would you rather I flirted with you in public or saved it for when we’re alone?

9. 69

   Would you rather plan a surprise romantic weekend or be surprised with one?

10. 70

    Would you rather share a bubble bath or a hot tub under the stars?

11. 71

    Would you rather hear me say “I love you” or “I want you”?

12. 72

    Would you rather steal a kiss in a crowded elevator or at the top of a Ferris wheel?

13. 73

    Would you rather I whispered something sweet or something cheeky in your ear at a party?

14. 74

    Would you rather relive our first kiss or our most recent one?

15. 75

    Would you rather I made the first move tonight, or you?

    Spicy, not explicit. And either of you can always say “not tonight.”

Thirty rapid-fire picks for couples, light first and flirty at the end.

1. 76

   Sunrise or sunset?

   Play it fast: answer in three seconds or less, then go back and ask “why?” about your three favorites.

2. 77

   Beach or mountains?

3. 78

   Breakfast in bed or brunch out?

4. 79

   Big party or small dinner?

5. 80

   Texting or calling?

6. 81

   Planned or spontaneous?

7. 82

   Road trip or flight?

8. 83

   Cook at home or order in?

9. 84

   Early bird or night owl?

10. 85

    Movie at home or at the theater?

11. 86

    Sweet or salty?

12. 87

    Dogs or cats?

13. 88

    Window seat or aisle seat?

14. 89

    Summer or winter?

15. 90

    Board games or video games?

16. 91

    City break or cabin in the woods?

17. 92

    Pizza or tacos?

18. 93

    Splurge or save?

19. 94

    Books or podcasts?

20. 95

    Coffee date or cocktail date?

21. 96

    Hugs or kisses?

22. 97

    Love letter or love song?

23. 98

    Big spoon or little spoon?

24. 99

    Morning kisses or goodnight kisses?

25. 100

    Holding hands or an arm around the shoulder?

26. 101

    Slow dance or fast dance?

27. 102

    Candlelit dinner or picnic under the stars?

28. 103

    Flirty texts or flirting in person?

29. 104

    Forehead kisses or neck kisses?

30. 105

    A fancy night out or a night in where the movie never gets finished?

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